Its times like this that make me think all men are bastards!!! Far too many men will come up with stupid excuses instead of being upfront and honest about situations like that - I hope I never get like that if I ever get anywhere with girls!

This is just the evidence you finally needed to realise that actually he isn't worth your love and time, he really is an inadequate, lying waste of space. All I do is quote from Mr. JT himself 'What comes around goes around'. xx

It makes me feel less alone to realize there are others in the same boat... the same thing happened to me recently and it hurts like a mother, but it's so common you kind of have to laugh at it (eventually). Men do it, women do it, we all hurt each other and do the wrong thing sometimes. I just hope we can all look back and say it was worth it.

I have dated and broke up with someone I have been with for 15 years and he is now dating someone else. I am terrified that he will get caught up in the way a new relationships feels and forget about all that we had. Is it better to be a friend to him right now and allow him to discover where his heart truely wants to be or should I be proactive and make every effort to show him how much I love him and remind him of all the reasons why our relationship had so much good left in it? I don't want to push him away by making him feel the pressure of guilt but I don't want to sit back quietly and allow him to discover love somewhere else either. What action has the best outcome?

I had the exact same speech from a guy I was seeing for 3 months. I'm not ready, I still have feelings for my ex, I don't want anything serious right now, bla bla bla. And then one week later he showed up at our local bar with another girl who was so clingy with him. I asked him last night whats going on there after i ran into them whilst they were on another date. He said he told her exactly what he told me but upfront this time, he doesnt want anything serious. Well though I am hurt let me just say that at least he did the right thing in ending it with me instead of stringing me along like he is this poor new girl. He obviously cared a little bit about me to not do that to me. Sometimes it really is HIM and not US.