I spent all of Friday and Saturday thinking about what had happened Friday morning. Something didn't quite add up about why he wouldn't show me the text. I decided I had to get to the bottom of it.

So, I went over to his flat on Saturday night. I was so nervous but eventually I managed to get the words out. I actually used a phrase from one of phoenix2k's comments (thanks p2k!) - and said to him that I can give the benefit of the doubt so far (eg taking the you know whats on holiday) but there comes a point at which it's taking the piss and I thought that this was taking the piss. I said that the fact he wouldn't show me what he'd sent her meant that clearly there was something dodgy on there. I implied that I needed to know the truth or it was over.

He could tell I was serious because immediately he admitted that ok yes he had told her when he was next down south (which is why he didn't show me the text) but the reasoning was that (like me) he wasn't sure if I would change my mind about seeing him on Thursday. He'd sent it before we met, when he didn't know if I would turn up - and so had her on the back-burner so to speak. So I said ok, thats fine, I can understand that, but have you been in touch since yesterday morning (when he sent the text saying sorry but I'm back with my ex now)? He replied that he did once later on that day because she wouldnt stop asking him why we couldnt meet up. I wasn't very happy with this but then he actually showed me what he'd sent her...

She'd said 'I thought you said you hadn't found the right girl yet?' and his reply was 'I just realised she was the nearest I've come to the right girl in a long time and I'd given up too easily'.

So then I said ok well let's draw a line under it now, but if I EVER get a sniff of anything dodgy going on again then that is it, it's over, and he said yes understood! He got upset again then, tears welled up, and I said why? He replied that he thought I was about to end it with him and he didn't want that. I said I didn't want to do that either but now we are back on track you've got to prove and show to me that this is what you really want - because it's what I really want. And he promised he would.