It always strikes me that one of the saddest things about breaking up is that you are supposed to turn off any feelings and contact with someone in the space of an instant. Half-finished conversations are left hanging, future plans are binned, and you're meant to carry on as if everything is normal, even though there's a person-shaped hole in your life.

I find it hard to get my head round the fact that one day a guy can be lying in my bed, privy to my thoughts, my dreams, my body. The next day he can call it off and just like that I'm meant to be ok with the fact I'm never going to speak to him again. Just like that. I think, for anyone who has even the tiniest amount of compassion and who cares for other people, that this aspect of a break up is one of the hardest things they will ever have to go through. It doesn't matter if you have been together months or years. Being told that with immediate effect you are supposed to turn off those feelings and that closeness, is incredibly difficult.

I don't know what the answer is. I don't know if there IS an answer. Time? Perhaps. Space? Probably. But knowing that with time and space the person-shaped hole will gradually become smaller, doesn't help right now. The lines of communication have been jammed shut, the in-jokes and future plans have been tossed aside, and I'm expected to be just fine with it.